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Judgy Judgerson

Updated: Nov 5, 2019


Thats me, Im so judgemental , it is not funny. On my self!!! I am my worst critic. And as a mum I never feel good enough. I think ( who am I kidding, I know) it stems from my career as a nanny , I had to raise literally the bar as I was bring children other peoples preference and standard and I took pride in my work. The house was always clean, toys put away , children laundry washed and pressed and in drawers, projects done, like painting , clay, baking cookies what ever done. The kids did go to the best classes ( money wasn't an issue), they were expected to get in to the best schools, there was awesome birthday parties , etc. So with this my standards were high. And not that they shouldn't be, except I won't force Kale and smoked salmon on my toddler, but I am hard on myself. I feel like Im not doing enough , or doing too much ! My child will cover the milestones when they do and not before. And that pile of laundry will get done when I do it. I have found I am not alone in this, not other people being hard on me, but other mothers trying to be everything to everyone. Why is it we are so hard on ourselves that we are to bounce back physically , emotionally ( I'm 3.5 months in and the hormones and mummy tummy have not abated yet and to be truthful probably never will !)


But we as woman , who had careers and standards and pride in our work beforehand seem to reduce ourselves to 2nd class citizens who are always running to keep up , falling short somewhere , made to feel guilty when we either do something for ourselves be it writing, or bonding on couch with our wee one. The dishes in the sink are yelling at us, the laundry is piling up and dinner isn't made. Im not saying men should help and or don't help . This is all in my head !!! But we are way too hard on ourselves, and I need to learn to relax and give myself a break. The only one judging me is me ! We need to remember being a mum is enough, there is no standards, raising a child takes a village, ask for help, take it when offered and be kind to yourself physically emotionally, mentally and spiritually. xxx ) they ( in my head ) made me feel guilty about not being there for them again , especially as Hubbie said you didn't need to yell at them. I was in pain, snappy , asked them all nicely the first three times to give me 5 minutes and then now guilty for yelling at them.


But we as woman , who had careers and standards and pride in our work beforehand seem to reduce ourselves to 2nd class citizens who are always running to keep up , falling short somewhere , made to feel guilty when we either do something for ourselves be it writing, or bonding on couch with our wee one. The dishes in the sink are yelling at us, the laundry is piling up and dinner isnt made. Im not saying men should help and or don't help . this is all in my head !!! But we are way too hard on ourselves, and I need to learn to relax and give myself a break. The only one judging me is me ! We need to remember being a mum is enough, there is no standards, raising a child takes a village, ask for help, take it when offered and be kind to yourself physically emotionally, mentally and spiritually. xx


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